I have a tendency to go off on tangents and be extremely melodramatic. I'm going to try to refrain from that in this post. I'm totally sad dudes. I actually had a really happy night last night that I will try to post about when I'm less sad. The Security Boy is totally depressed, I can SOOO tell. I LIVE with a person that has depression and I know what this looks like. He's so completely in denial of it. And apparently he's pissed at me for even bringing it up because he is now NOT talking to me. AWESOME. The difficulty is that I love him enough to want to help him get help and depressed people cannot see that someone loves them, they see accusations. *sigh* Loving someone is hard.....and Loving someone that is inaccessible and angry is even harder.
"Blue skies are gonna cheer up................."
Wednesday, July 19, 2006
Let's keep the dramatics to a minimum shall we?
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I know what you mean...I *so* know what you mean. I dated a guy, just before my husband (who, oddly enough, has the same first name), who was probably the smartest and one of the most amazing people. But he had such a problem with depression, and all he did was deny it. He couldn't see it, and thought all I was doing was criticizing him. Needless to say, we broke up (obviously)...and now, occasionally when we talk, he tells me how right I was and how I am still the only person who knows so much about him.
Too little, too late, fucker.
Anyway. It's not about me! But in any case, I do know what you mean, and it's horribly sad. Just try to be there for him as much as you can, and when it gets too much for you - blog, shop, walk, etc. Whatever it takes. But he needs you now, more than you think. Just make sure you keep yourself though!
Be open to helping him through this - but don't let him drag you into his depression . . . .
How couldn't this be seen before? Hmmm. Interesting what you find out about a person, huh?
I feel your pain. And i totally agree with what ptg and cololialave said about being there for him but make sure you don't get depressed yourself because you won't be any help to him if you do. Sometimes there is nothing more you can do and you have to have some U time for a while, but I do think just being there is helpful even if it seems pointless to you.
That's a bummer. I'm one of those "depressed" people. I go through spurts, where I don't know why I feel so down, and there's nothing that will snap me out of it except time and sleep. I don't mind being down, but I hate it when I don't know the reason. I hope it all works out for you.
As a person that suffers from depression from time to time, I recommend that you just be willing to be there for him. Depression is like alcoholism. You can't admit that you have the problem until you are ready to. Back off trying to get him help for a little bit. Just a few days. Then try mentioning it again in as non-threatening a manner as possible.
I'm not saying ignore the depression. Don't do that at all.
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